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Second thoughts

27 Nov

Our bride blogger, Alicia, is back for installment 9 on the Modern Wedding blog and she’s having second thoughts…

There are many decisions to be made in planning a wedding. For example should you have an indoor or an outdoor wedding, a modern or a vintage theme, beach or garden photos, vanilla or recycled stationary… it seems endless. I said that the detail wouldn’t get to me, but after six months of preparations it has! After eight months of looking and planning, all of the details are starting to get blurry I can’t seem to make a confident decision anymore.

For example, this weekend my future sister-in-law was just telling us about the beautiful wedding that she had just attended. It was glamorous and quirky and very on trend, and for each thing that she said I kept thinking “oh. Maybe we should have done that?”

Cute Wedding Table - Image by Jose Villa

Image by Jose Villa Photography

Wedding Favour

Candle Wedding Decorations

A real sign of doubt occurred a few weeks ago (doubts about the dress that is, not about the man! ;-). When I saw the Karen Willis Holmes collection I suddenly wanted to sell my wedding dress and burst out in the sun radiant and breathtaking in the Jillian or the Anastacia.

So what has happened? Where has this “grass is greener” idea come from?

Jillian by Karen Willis Holmes

Jillian by Karen Willis Holmes

Anastacia by Karen Willis Holmes

Anastacia by Karen Willis Holmes

I think that it’s because of information overload. I’ve read and researched too much. And I don’t necessarily get to see the price tag that comes with some of these things, and which might be way outside my budget anyway. So I have taken a step back. I’m spending very little time on Pinterest, and I am instead relying on my gut instinct and preference for personal style and options.

Personal Wedding Note

So our wedding may end up being a little bit of a crazy hodgepodge of ideas and styles. And so?! If that’s the case then it will be quirky in our way, not the quirkiness of a magazine or a stylist. The important thing is that we are comfortable, in love and at ease with our guests and that people will say “wow, that wedding favour really is Alicia” or “that music is so Shane”.

Alicia x

Image Credits from top to bottom:

Image from josevillablog.com, Image from Bellethemagazine.com, Image from descrumblesetdesbulles.tumblr.com, Jillian (KWH demi couture collection), Anastacia by Karen Willis Holmes, Love note image from weheartit.com

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DIY Wedding Invitations (and getting organised!)

12 Nov

Our bride blogger, Alicia, is back for installment 8 on the Modern Wedding blog! There’s a wedding planned, but where are the invitations?

Our wedding day is fast approaching with only 10 weeks to go (with Christmas right smack bang in the middle)!

All of our main items are booked and our deposits paid. Our venue, celebrant, band, cars, flowers, bride’s dress, bridal party attire. I am glad we booked as many things as possible quite early on, because recently we have hit a bit of a delay. Let me tell you, it pays to be as organised as possible in the first 6 months, just in case life throws one of its little doozies at you!

We had to move out of our rented apartment this month. It wasn’t our choice and certainly not the best timing, and finding a new place to live, pack up and move has taken up a lot of time (as it always does). The one wedding related item that has suffered the most from this delay has been our invitations.  We would have liked to have had our wedding invitations out 3-4 months prior to the wedding, but it looks as though it will be 2 months prior at the earliest.

But we did one good thing, and we knew very early that we would like DIY wedding invitations. It would save on cost, we enjoy craft and stationery, and we liked the idea of the personal touch that DIY offered. Knowing that DIY would take a bit of time, we sent out a Save the Date email or SMS as early as possible.

And hopefully this has given people enough notice and they have marked it in their calendar!

DIY Wedding Invitations - by Stationery Online and Wills Quills

DIY Wedding Invitations - Pulp Creative Paper

Modern Wedding DIY Invitation

 

 

 

One problem I did not foresee is some of our guests who have booked their flights to arrive on the same day as our wedding… without first checking what time our ceremony is. A few of our guests will cut it quite fine. II have decided that this is out of my control, and as long as my fiancé, myself and our immediate families are there then everyone else can work themselves out!

We are looking at DIY invitation guides and templates this week, and so far nothing has grabbed our fancy yet. What did you do for your invitations? Have you DIY’d, or did you find a great supplier? Any advice is very very welcome at this stage! 🙂

x Alicia

Image Credits from top to bottom:
1. top: Stationery Online bottom: Wills Quills

2. Pulp Creative Paper

3. Modern Wedding DIY Magazine #1

Wedding shoes: To Choo or not to Choo?

25 Oct

Our bride blogger, Alicia, is back for installment 7 on the Modern Wedding blog! She’s been focusing on her all-important wedding shoes over the last few weeks…

To Choo or not to Choo? That is the question.

When choosing bridal shoes there are two arguments: “If you can’t wear a designer shoe on your wedding day then when can you?” and “Don’t bother spending money on shoes because nobody sees them anyway”. Where do you fit in this debate?

White bridal shoes

Photography on Hermitage

Jimmy Choo bridal shoes

Photo by Stuart Leal

Wedding shoes

Photo by Natalie Howe

Flat wedding shoes

Society Photography

Bridal shoes

Photo by Natalie Howe

Wedding shoes

Photo by April Werz

Jimmy Choo wedding shoes

The Greta by Jimmy Choo

I hadn’t thought about bridal shoes until I saw a tiny image of THE MOST amazing shoe in a magazine. It was a gorgeous stiletto sandal in bright gold and glitter that would look amazing under a wedding dress or teamed with skinny jeans (post-wedding day bonus).

The shoe’s name is Greta and the designer is Jimmy Choo (pictured above). I had never owned a designer shoe, nor had I thought about it, but now it was an infatuation. I couldn’t stop thinking about Greta and her price tag: AUD$1,100(ish)…almost as much as my dress!

It tormented me for months. Around and around the argument went: “If you can’t have a designer shoe…” vs “Nobody’s going to see your shoes!”. I couldn’t justify the price, but at the same time I didn’t stop looking at the website. A few months later it came up on sale – Greta at 50% OFF!

That was now a price tag of $500(ish) dollars…almost justifiable. I picked up the phone and called the nearest store. Was my size in stock? Yes. Could I make some bogus work excuse? Yes. (I was sick – shoe sick). So off I went to try on the Choo.

The verdict? TERRIBLE. The beautiful shoe made my feet look awful! Admittedly, going for a big run first was probably a bad idea (think knobby feet with popping veins), plus with decades of that kind of running I don’t quite have model feet. So in the end it was…No Deal.

Now I have justified it in a different way. I have saved myself at least $1,000 to spend on something else…! It’s funny how logic works.

My thoughts have now turned to fun shoes that add a surprise pop of colour or girly fun to a wedding dress. Turquoise, pink, gold, polka dots…

What do you think? What did you Choo(se) for your wedding shoe?

Alicia x

About Alicia: Alicia is a water scientist by day and a blogger/jogger/home cooker by night. She is madly in love with her fiancé Shane, Pinterest and her fitness program. Check out her Pinterest board and lifestyle blog.

Alicia is guest blogging for the Modern Wedding blog leading up to her wedding day. She resides in Manly, Sydney, and is a Victorian country girl at heart. Swing by Modern Wedding Facebook or Modern Wedding Twitter and ask Alicia a question.

Choosing a bridal party

11 Oct

Our bride blogger, Alicia, is back for installment 6 on the Modern Wedding blog. The countdown to her wedding is on with just 3 months to go and in this post she writes about choosing a bridal party.

Choosing a bridal party can be a difficult decision. There are siblings, siblings-to-be, cousins and best friends to consider! Fiancé and I want one or two friends to help celebrate our day, however it suddenly became very easy to understand how bridal party numbers could end up at 8, 10 or even 20 people (big shout out to Kate Moss!)

Big bridal parties look fun and fabulous, but we want an intimate wedding feel. And besides, our bridal car only seats six passengers, so we’re bound to be having no more than two attendants each anyway.

So how do you choose just two people from all of your vast and wonderful friends? The only way I could make this decision was to think about what would best fulfill our wedding day and my bride needs (I know, that sounds very selfish, doesn’t it!)

Large bridal party

bobbi+mike

Large bridal party

XSIGHT Photography

Small bridal party

Inlighten Photography

Alicia in a bridal party

Alicia in a bridal party – Contessa Photography

Bridesmaids

Alicia’s bridesmaids

I chose my two close girlfriends, Anthea and Kylie (pictured above). I did not choose my sister, my long term girl friends, or friends I have been bridesmaid for in the past. That was tough, because it does not mean that I love or value any friends more than others.

I chose Anthea and Kylie because they know me so well, they listen to my sad times and celebrate my happy times without competition or judgment. We met through individual and momentous circumstances, and the bond was instant. These girls have shared the journey of my relationship with my fiancé and have been here with me through the whole ‘marriage thing’.

It was magical to watch my fiancé “pop the question” to his groomsmen. His best friend Andrew stared at fiancé for what seemed like minutes. He was astonished, then there was shaking of hands and a few man hugs, then a group hug. It was wonderful! His second groomsman, Brad, is a lifelong friend from fiancé’s wonder years growing up in Canberra. Brad is a gentle, laid back guy, and he got up to quite a bit of mischief on his own buck’s day (even making the news. Uh oh!)

This week my bridesmaids and I found a place to have dresses made to their specifications and for a reasonable price. I must say, I was at first shocked at the cost of BM dresses ($500+). Back in my day, when I was a BM in 2002, our dresses cost $260! But it was impossible to find the right colour and style that we wanted off the shelf, and we live in Sydney, and we don’t know any seamstresses – so, the price was going to be high. Rhenola at Skarr Sydney is our new fairy godmother.

With that now sorted, we can move onto more fun stuff. The first question the girls asked on the way home from shopping was “So, what’s OFF the list for a hens day?” To which I replied: “A pink hummer and George Street.” I have a feeling I’m getting a fire truck! 😉

How did you go with your bridal party decisions? Are you going with a big or small bridal party? A loud or quiet hens day?

Alicia x

About Alicia: Alicia is a water scientist by day and a blogger/jogger/home cooker by night. She is madly in love with her fiancé Shane, Pinterest and her fitness program. Check out her Pinterest board and lifestyle blog.

Alicia is guest blogging for the Modern Wedding blog leading up to her wedding day. She resides in Manly, Sydney, and is a Victorian country girl at heart. Swing by Modern Wedding Facebook or Modern Wedding Twitter and ask Alicia a question.

Getting bride fit

22 Sep

Our bride blogger, Alicia, is back for installment 5 on the Modern Wedding blog. In this post she writes very honestly about her pre-wedding fitness campaign.

Are you on a pre-wedding fitness campaign? When I recently tried on wedding gowns and realised that dresses are made for the female form, I also realised I could quite happily walk down the aisle just the way I am. But then, when I started planning our honeymoon I was repeatedly ambushed with daydreams of myself toned and flat stomached, lithly draped across a sunbed in a Thailand resort. So with some trepidation I have decided to go for that uber flat tummy through fitness and diet.

Relax and get fit riding at sunset

Photo by Yarik Mission

Doing yoga in the lead up to your wedding will work wonders

Photo by Matthew Bowden

Drink lots of water before your wedding

Photo by Davide Guglielmo

Run and get fit for your wedding

Photo by Cheryl Empey

There are many great fitness options out there which, if I’m moderately committed and disciplined, should give me results. I have to admit it, I do have vices, and with a few small adjustments I should get some improvement in the way I look or feel.With our wedding budget in mind I decided to tighten up and utilise the free outdoors around me. I chose the online fitness and food program Bride Body and in five weeks I lost four kgs. This was a big surprise to me because I’ve tried numerous fitness programs and those last 3-4 kgs have never shifted before.

My mistake was that I thought: “I can eat chips and have a few wines because I’m good most of the time and I do heaps of exercise.” Na ah. I started weighing myself daily and the truth was revealed. The weight would go down after 3-4 days of eating healthy and having plenty of herbal tea and water, but then one bad day or a big dinner involving chips or dessert and pow, I was back where I was. One step forward, one step back, one step forward, one step back. I was sabotaging myself…

I won’t deny it is really really hard to be disciplined all of the time. I never get through the week without doing something naughty. But I have found that if I am good 95% of the time then I get 95% of the results… and that’s enough.

I’m also trying for as naturally flawless skin as possible. We’re getting married in the steamy humid month of February and I don’t want foundation sliding down my cleavage! I’ve had a long, sad history with my skin and I’ve tried topical creams, exfoliation, microdermabrasion and dermatology. By my engagement party my skin was red and raw. Now I’m going for the gentle loving approach and I’m using organic skin care products. I am also seeing a naturopath to help me nourish my skin from the inside. It has taught me to be a lot kinder to my skin, and kinder to myself in general.

Finally there are my hands. It’s been horrible showing off my beautiful sparkle on dry cracked winter hands. I’m using paw paw treatment to heal my dry weathered skin and a cortisol cream to get rid of a weird dermatitis that I picked up doing my ‘burpees’ exercises one day in the park. Come to think of it, can I now say that I’m allergic to burpees?!

That’s my bridal fitness regime. What about you? Do you have a fitness and beauty plan leading up to your big day or are you relaxed and happy not needing or wanting to do a thing in that area of your life?

Alicia x

About Alicia: Alicia is a water scientist by day and a blogger/jogger/home cooker by night. She is madly in love with her fiancé Shane, Pinterest and her fitness program. Check out her Pinterest board and lifestyle blog.

Alicia is guest blogging for the Modern Wedding blog leading up to her wedding day. She resides in Manly, Sydney, and is a Victorian country girl at heart. Swing by Modern Wedding Facebook or Twitter and ask Alicia a question.

Finding my wedding dress

8 Sep

Alicia, our funny and lovely guest bride blogger, is back on the Modern Wedding blog for installment 4. In this post she tells us about the journey she’s been on to find THE dress.

There are many magical aspects to a wedding. Marrying your best friend has to be top of the list, but I also think that finding and wearing the wedding dress is one of the really special parts of a wedding too.

I never thought I’d be fussy about a dress, but let me tell you, since trying on gowns I’ve fallen waaaaay down the rabbit hole. Wedding dresses are so unique. They are so thoughtfully designed and carefully made…there is no other dress like it.

I found my dress very early on. Initially I was thinking of a soft, empire, chiffon, hair down sort of look so, in week three of engaged life I booked myself an appointment at Marry Me Bridal. I went by myself and first tried on a heavy lace empire gown which I easily crossed off my list. Then I tried a chiffon single-strap gown which I really liked. I then said to the consultant: “You choose something for me, something different.”

In through the curtain came an enormous gown, bustling it’s way into the previously large change room with a tiny consultant somewhere lost in the folds of the tulle skirt. “This is Tiffany,” a hidden voice said. “She’s very popular.” I was laced up tight and swooshed my out to the mirror. I couldn’t believe my eyes. I looked like a bride. My waist looked tiny I felt like I was on top of something; up there on show amongst all that tulle.

And then the veil went on. Swoon. All the hairs on my arms stood on end and I felt light headed. I was suddenly a bride.  The dress was gorgeous. I was gorgeous!

Brides Desire by Wendy Sullivan | Photography - Justin Aveling

Brides Desire by Wendy Sullivan | Photography – Justin Aveling

Bridal Vision | Photography - Tim Robinson

Bridal Vision | Photography – Tim Robinson

But it was still early days and I don’t think that I had even come to terms with being engaged, much less ready to walk away with a dress. So I decided to go home and think about it and next time enlist the help of some friends. Two weeks later myself and two excited girl friends trekked into the city to try on big beautiful gowns at Maggie Sottero.

That’s where I met my fairy godmother. She told me that she could find the perfect dress for any budget, and she spoke some wise advice: “Do not try on dresses that are beyond what you want to spend because invariably you’ll end up falling in love with it and you’ll have to take out a personal loan to buy it.“ Apparently this happens quite a lot.

In that store they recommended a mermaid gown and my first thought was “What on earth are they thinking?” I have curvy hips and solid thighs, why would I wear a dress that hugs those parts?!”

But wedding dresses are made to accentuate your assets and, ladies, the mermaid gown is made for us curvy babes. It hugged and draped the feminine silhouette, and it clicked with me how lovely the female shape is in these beautifully made dresses. I could have gone with the mermaid gown. It really made me feel like a Hollywood siren. However, the next dress turned out to be ‘The One’.

Emoda Couture | Photography - Tim Robinson

Emoda Couture | Photography – Tim Robinson

Briony Leigh Bridal

Briony Leigh Bridal

I knew this dress was the one after I had taken it off and saw a couple of other women eyeing it off.  I wanted it! I put a deposit down, picked it up a few days later and hid it in my wardrobe behind a couple of maxis and my dressing gown, in absolute SHOCK that I had just bought a wedding dress. What would my fiancé think?!

But now (it is safely stowed at a friend’s house) and I am very very happy that I made the decision early on. Now I don’t have to choose between all the other gorgeous gowns I have seen, and I can move on to creating a theme and a style around the feeling of the dress that I chose.  I can’t wait to put it on again!

What about you? Was it easy to find your dress or are you still going through the experience? How many dresses have you tried on?

Alicia x

About Alicia: Alicia is a water scientist by day and a blogger/jogger/home cooker by night. She is madly in love with her fiancé Shane, Pinterest and her fitness program. Check out her Pinterest board and lifestyle blog.

Alicia is guest blogging for the Modern Wedding blog leading up to her wedding day. She resides in Manly, Sydney, and is a Victorian country girl at heart. Swing by Modern Wedding Facebook or Twitter and ask Alicia a question.

A wedding budget to suit us

25 Aug

Alicia, our guest bride blogger, is back on the Modern Wedding blog for installment 3. Her big decisions over the last few weeks have been about the wedding budget! Something we can all relate to.

In my last post I was ‘bloganising’ over the hard decision of selecting our guest list. We felt as though we were caught in a tug of war; wanting to invite everyone versus sticking to a wedding budget.

Prior to becoming engaged our focus was to save a deposit to purchase our own little piece of Aussie real estate. We were getting pretty close. However, with our wedding on the horizon, it has become apparent very quickly that much of our savings will need to go toward the wedding.

Married couple walking

Daniel Griffiths Photography

Not wanting to give up on my Pinterest inspired ‘dream home’ just yet, I decided to set myself a challenge of a ‘wedding on a budget’ so I could try to have it all. This was ok in theory because as a long-term poor student I had always pictured myself having a simple barefoot wedding. However, the problem is that that poor student is long gone and I, somewhere along the way, have developed a weakness for fine things!

Added to this, fiancé and I LOVE to entertain, and so in our wedding planning we have pictured lots of friends, a festive bridal party, a big fun car, stunning photos, a venue with a view, fabulous entertainment, a gastronomic dinner, wedding-night luxury and, here comes the pièce de résistance, a honeymoon in Europe!

A wedding cake by The Cakery

Benny McDaniels – The Cakery

So you see the problem! Other people I have spoken to about this have recommended many ways to manage a tight wedding budget, however, many of these advice givers have also admitted to spending up big on other things for their wedding!

What I have found is that the budget decisions all come down to identifying what is most important to us. This week, fiancé and I realised that friends and family are the biggest thing for us. We have lived in multiple cities and have met, bonded, relied on and kept in touch with lots of people.

We were sad and torn by the idea of having to select only a few of these friends (and how do you choose?) and we also wanted our own parents to be able to share their proud day of seeing their son/daughter marrying their soul mate.

We decided that the memory of having all our favourite people with us on our wedding day is more important than the $5,000 or $10,000 we’d save toward our future home. It may seem frivolous and it may not be the same justified decision for other people. No one is right or wrong. Some, like my sister included, may make a vastly different decision (like getting married in a registry). Others may not have to worry about it.

Bridal party at a wedding

Brandon Vaccaro Photography

So last week we said ‘To hell with it, let’s invite everyone!” And you know what, it felt GREAT. We sent out a bunch of save-the-date messages and were hit with a flurry of excited replies… questions about accommodation and hens parties flooded in, and everyone was really excited. And for those who don’t give a toss, well they won’t come anyway.

In the end, like all apparent dilemmas in life, our guest list and wedding budget challenge has helped us to frame what is most important to us: family, friends and experience over possessions. It feels so good to do what’s right for us.

So here’s a snippet of our budget and some ‘wedding on a budget’ ideas:

Things we’re DIY-ing: Invitations, bonbonnieres and reception décor. We’ve also decided to go with a garden venue that needs no further embellishment.

Things we’re keeping simple: The cake, reception package, my dress, shoes (no ‘Choos’ for me!) and jewellery.

Things we’re laying on thick: Guest list, bridal party, photographer, reception venue, live music, wedding night luxury and, ahem…the right lingerie to round out the day. 😉

Band playing at a wedding

Natalie Howe Photography

What about you? How are you setting out your wedding budget and are you going to go extravagant on some things and compromise on others? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments section below.

Modern Wedding has an online wedding budget planner which might help you too. All the best with your budgeting!

Alicia x

About Alicia: Alicia is a water scientist by day and a blogger/jogger/home cooker by night. She is madly in love with her fiancé Shane, Pinterest and her fitness program. Check out her Pinterest board and lifestyle blog.

Alicia is guest blogging for the Modern Wedding blog leading up to her wedding day. She resides in Manly, Sydney, and is a Victorian country girl at heart. Swing by Modern Wedding Facebook or Twitter and ask Alicia a question.